Overview
ISFJ caregiver (protector) type. As an ISFJ, your primary life mode focuses on introspection and understands things intuitively and concretely through five senses. Your secondary life model is extroverted, in which you deal with problems through your feelings about things or whether they are in line with your value system. They are warm, friendly and identify with others, but they don't pay enough attention to their own needs.
Character characteristics
ISFJ lives in a peaceful world. They are very warm and kind and are always willing to believe in the good aspects of others. They value harmony and cooperation and are usually very sensitive to the feelings of others. People respect ISFJ not only because they are considerate and careful observation, but also because they can always tap the potential of others through their good vision for others.
ISFJ's inner world is very rich, which is often difficult for others to perceive. ISFJ will constantly absorb the information of others and situations that are important to themselves, and store these information. Because ISFJ often has excellent memory ability for the information that is important to their own value system, the abundant information they store is often extremely accurate. As long as ISFJ is moved by a certain situation, it is not surprising that they are very likely to remember a facial expression or the details of a conversation years after it happened.
ISFJ have their own clear understanding of things, which is the ability they constantly strive to obtain. They value a sense of security and friendliness, and respect tradition and law. They believe in existing systems and believe that they exist because they work properly. Therefore, they will not try to solve the problem with new methods unless they clearly see their advantages over the old methods.
The best way for ISFJ to learn is to practice, not to follow the book or quote theory. Because of this, it is difficult to see the figure of ISFJ in those fields that pay attention to conceptual analysis or theory. They attach importance to practical application. Traditional higher education needs to deal with a large number of theoretical and abstract contents, so it is very troublesome for ISFJ. If ISFJ understands the practical application of the task they are doing, they can master it quickly. In addition, once they master how to work and understand its importance in practice, ISFJ will be faithful and tireless. The ISFJ population is extremely reliable.
ISFJ has a very mature sense of space, function and beauty. Thus, their home layout is often beautiful and practical. They are especially good at interior design and decoration. This special ability of ISFJ, coupled with their keen insight into other people's feelings and wishes, makes them excellent gift givers - they can always find items that others can't put down.
Compared with other personality types, ISFJ is extremely sensitive to the internal feelings of himself and others. They usually don't reveal their feelings easily, but keep them in their hearts. Therefore, once any negative emotions are generated, these emotions may grow slowly in ISFJ, and gradually form stubborn critical concepts towards others. Moreover, once these ideas are formed, it is difficult to reduce them. Many ISFJ learn to express themselves and find ways to vent their emotions for themselves.
Just as ISFJ is not likely to express their feelings, even if they understand others' feelings, they often keep silent. However, when they feel that others really need help, they will say it without reservation. In this case, ISFJ can really help others realize their feelings.
ISFJ has a strong sense of responsibility and mission. They take their responsibilities seriously and will definitely stick to them. It is for this reason that people always trust and rely on them. Whenever others ask them to do something, ISFJ is difficult to refuse each other and may overburden himself. In this case, ISFJ usually does not express their difficulties to others, not only because they strongly dislike contradictions and conflicts, but also because they always put the needs of others above their own needs. If ISFJ wants to avoid overwork, or does not want his work to be taken for granted by others, he must learn to recognize, value and express his own needs.
ISFJs need positive feedback from others. When lacking positive feedback or facing criticism, ISFJ will appear depressed and may even become depressed. When they are depressed or under great pressure, ISFJ begins to imagine the fatal mistakes that may occur in life. They will feel powerless and convinced that everything is wrong or I can't do anything well.
ISFJ is warm, generous and trustworthy. They have many special talents, including the perception of others and the extraordinary ability to keep things running normally. They need to remember not to be too picky about others; While selflessly giving warmth and love to others, remember to leave some for yourself.
The biggest wish of protectors is to be useful to others and take care of others, that is, to protect others from defects and dangers in life, that is, to be responsible for the safety of others, and they will be infinitely satisfied in this process. Gentle and beneficial, comforting, silently paying attention to arranging appropriate care measures to protect the health and welfare of those in need. They are friendly or affectionate, so they prefer the role of custodian, and the characteristics of quiet consideration determine that they seem to be more protective than suppliers. It is a good thing that they account for 10% of the total population. Because they are always vigilant in the process of protecting others, and strictly abide by their promises to fulfill their obligations to protect their families, friends and colleagues. They are willing to help the oppressed and treat the disabled and the poor better than others.
They are cautious and irregular in their care work, so their efforts are sometimes not recognized. They are not talkative, but they may still not know how tired they are to chat with others, as long as the topic they are talking about is related to the details of their life. However, their shyness in front of strangers is often mistaken for rigidity or even indifference, and these protectors are actually warm-hearted and willing to selflessly help people in trouble. However, when people get out of trouble with their help, they lose interest.
Their reserve should be regarded as an expression, not indifference, but the expression of sincere and serious consciousness. They feel that work is beneficial and needs to be won. They prefer to work long hours and do odd jobs that others disdain. Being thorough and economical is one of their virtues. Once they undertake a certain work, they will try their best to complete it. They like working independently very much. In fact, they even feel uncomfortable when they are placed in a certain power position. Maybe you are willing to do everything by yourself rather than directing others to do it.
Therefore, they often overwork, just as they are often misunderstood, their contributions are often taken for granted and not appreciated accordingly. This may make them feel indignant, and they dust up this emotion and endure inner distress, resulting in a lot of unnecessary pain.
They can be trusted at work, but they will appear unhappy without respect. If someone breaks the rules, they will become sad and embarrassed. Although they can't show it, this pain may be trapped in their hearts, showing fatigue and chronic gastric dysfunction.
Suitable job
Guardians, private secretaries, librarians, middle managers, private doctors, nurses, insurance agents.
Suitable partner: Entrepreneur
It's easy to feel right for each other. Entrepreneurs are outgoing and strong, often proud of the peak of their career; The reclusive and friendly protectors provide them with a quiet shelter.
About family
Concentrate on your partner and family. You are usually an excellent housekeeper. Women often show their ability to decorate the house and try their best to fulfill the responsibilities of housewives; Men, managing money and some small problems at home. As parents, they treat their children gently and believe that they have the responsibility to urge their children to abide by social norms and keep them away from deception and danger. In fact, the parents of protectors should know how to encourage their children's independence.
About leadership
Otherwise, the purpose of providing appropriate security and observing the implementation of preventive measures is to protect the safety of people and property they care about. They are naturally cautious and pay attention to security, but no one can give people a sense of security and commitment like them. Safety is their first priority, and leaders need to be very careful to appreciate such people. The role of managers in such people is usually slightly weaker, and they have fewer opportunities to engage in these. They also pay attention to practice and do not pay attention to effect.
Cognitive function
Dominant: introverted reality · secondary: extroverted emotion · auxiliary: introverted thinking · low level: extroverted intuition
ISFJs attach great importance to interpersonal relationships. They are usually generous, tolerant, loving and loyal, and will put the needs of others above their own. In some cases, they will have great emotional needs, but they will hide their true feelings in front of others. They are very serious about their commitments and seek emotions that can last a lifetime. ISFJ is very reliable and they will put a lot of energy into making things go smoothly. Whenever others ask them to do something, it is difficult for ISFJ to refuse each other, and because of this, their efforts are often taken for granted.
Advantages
Warm, friendly and identify with others
Serving others, hoping to please others
Will spend a lot of energy to realize their responsibilities and obligations
Excellent organizational skills
Be very serious about your commitment and seek a partner who can accompany you all your life
Shortcomings
Don't pay enough attention to your own needs
There are some difficulties in contacting new things
Extreme aversion to conflict, contradiction and criticism
Usually hide your needs, which may lead to inner emotional depression and frustration
Not good at ending a bad emotion
It's hard to get out of the shadow of a failed relationship
View point of love
ISFJ are very devoted to their feelings. They have very strong feelings, but it is often difficult for others to notice this for a while, unless there is a strong reason to force them to express it. Because of their strong feelings, ISFJ will attach great importance to their marriage and love relationship (exception: when they believe in God or other religions). They only hope to find a spouse, a lifelong commitment. Once ISFJ makes his commitment, he will be single-minded to his partner.
It is difficult for ISFJ to let themselves leave a bad relationship or accept the fact that the relationship is over. They may take all the blame on themselves and think about what they should have done to keep the relationship from ending. Once they feel that they have fulfilled all their responsibilities and obligations for failure, they will be completely frustrated and find it difficult to accept the fact of failure. They are extremely serious and dedicated lovers, and are likely to retain a kind of undying love for their dead partner.
ISFJ is usually very selfless and always puts the needs of others before their own needs. Therefore, once they are used and unable to vent their strong feelings, they are very likely to backfire. In this case, ISFJ's inner feelings will rush up, resulting in strong hatred for others. ISFJ should strive to recognize their own needs and meet them, rather than always put the needs of others first. After all, if you can't take care of yourself, how can you take care of others?
In terms of sex, ISFJ regards sex as a tangible way to strengthen the feelings of both parties. They also regard it as a duty, so they are more willing to satisfy their lover first than to obtain their own satisfaction. Although ISFJ is not so good at expressing love in words, they usually show everything with their own actions and attach great importance to the lover's positive response to themselves.
ISFJ is warm and selfless. They will spend a lot of time and energy to complete their identified responsibilities. When others show gratitude to ISFJ, they will feel the greatest satisfaction. Therefore, for ISFJ, the expression of love and gratitude of lovers is the best gift for them.
ISFJ are difficult to deal with conflicts and contradictions. Usually, they prefer to ignore the situation. Sometimes, facing conflict directly can help us solve it better. ISFJ should realize that facing the conflict and expressing its feelings does not mean the end of the world. Conflict is not necessarily a problem to avoid, and the cause of conflict is not necessarily ISFJ. A common problem of ISFJ people is to avoid expressing their emotions until they reach the limit of their tolerance. Once the mood breaks out, they will be extremely angry and say fierce words that they will regret later. In fact, as long as you can express your feelings regularly, this outbreak can be completely controlled.
In general, ISFJ is traditional and family oriented. They regard the happiness of their partner and family as the most important thing in their life. ISFJ is good at meeting the daily needs of others. The depth they show in caring for others is very rare, and can not be found in most other personality types. They will devote a lot of energy to the healthy development of their relationship, and will do their best to ensure that things go smoothly. ISFJ is definitely a reliable and loving lover.
Although two individuals with complete personality development can have a healthy relationship, the best choice for ISFJ is Estp or esfp. ISFJ's dominant function inward perception and dominant function are the other half of outward perception, forming a perfect complement. Although two individuals of any personality type can have a healthy relationship as long as their personality develops completely. However, the natural partner more suitable for ISFJ is Estp, esfj or esfp. The dominant function of ISFJ is inward reality, which is the best match with the dominant function outward reality of the two personality types.
Psychological characteristics
Collect and store large and extensive information related to people, have strong memory ability for important details, observe things around carefully - have an excellent sense of space and function, be able to rely on them to complete things from beginning to end, work hard for a long time until the task is completed, and be practical and stable Down to Earth - they do not like to deal with theory and abstract thinking, pay attention to safe, traditional and peaceful life, focus on serving others, pay attention to the needs of others, consider the needs of others before their own, get the best learning results in practice, and take their responsibilities seriously, Extreme discomfort in conflict and confrontation situations.
ISFJ has two basic personality traits that can help them recognize their career direction:
1) He is very interested in other people's feelings and has strong observation
2) Likes to create structure and order and is good at it. Ideally, ISFJ should choose a career that can give full play to its extraordinary observation ability, explore the needs of others, and use its excellent organizational ability to create a structured plan or environment to meet the needs of others. Their excellent sense of space and function, combined with their understanding of beauty, can also enable them to show their strength in applied art work, such as interior decoration or fashion design.
Suitable career field
CEO, entrepreneurship, it, interior designer, designer, nurse, supervisor and manager, administrative assistant, kindergarten teacher / morning teacher, social worker / consultant, paralegal, clergy / religious worker, office manager, retail businessman, archivist, domestic worker
Whether you are a young man looking for his place in the world, or no longer young and trying to know whether you are on the right track, you must know yourself and your personality. These internal elements will play a decisive role in your career success or failure. In addition, if you understand what is most important to you, understand your strengths and weaknesses, and realize what you really like, you will have enough ability to find a career path suitable for you.
How to get along with ISFJ type people
ISFJ people live in a completely real life. It is difficult for them to observe problems comprehensively and predict the possible results of the situation, especially when they are not familiar with the situation. They need to look further and imagine the consequences if they do things in different ways.
ISFJ type people fall into tired and endless work every day for themselves and those who are responsible for them. They often work too much and do something themselves to ensure that they can be done meticulously. Because they are not born overconfident or strong willed, they are in danger of being used by others. They have to express their resentment that they are constantly entangled by all kinds of things, so they don't find that they have become a helping role. And they must let others know their needs and achievements.
ISFJ people often need extra time to master technical content. They tend to plan too much, so they must make plans that help to readjust their excessive and worrying energy. ISFJ people must find ways to get more happiness and relaxation they deserve.